“Life happened to me.” Does it mean that I am sad?
I was having this conversation with an acquaintance (X) a little over a year ago about how I was a science student in school and then took up English during my graduation (an arts course), then studied French, worked with an NGO and ended up studying journalism. It’s a big deal here in India to change streams, to not follow the conventional career path.
So, while having this conversation an expected question was asked- “Why so much variety?”
And I was quick to answer- “Life happened to me!”
We plan a lot of things for ourselves. Some turn out to be good, others turn out to be bad. We are able to do some, we have to give up others. I guess that is what life is all about. No?
Unsurprisingly, X also had a story similar to mine. Why unsurprisingly?
All of us have been victims and survivors of the education system. (I have had a lot of conversations about the education system in our country too. But I don’t want to talk about that right now.)
I have answered this “why so much variety?” question to a lot of people. But this particular conversation with X stands apart for one reason.
When I told X that I don’t plan to become a journalist, X asked what if I was dragged into it. And being my (rarely) sarcastic self, I said, “Then I’d be telling somebody else that life happened to me again!” Though we had a good laugh after my reply, I never thought that I’d be writing about the conversation today.
Fast forward to present: Someone asked me if I was doing well. I really appreciated her concern but what surprised me is that she asked me the question because I had said “life happened to me”.
Her concern made me realise that we have come to a point where we equate life with troubles, problems, worries, sorrows and other negative emotions and things.
To be honest, when I told X that “life happened to me” a year ago, somewhere down the line, my sarcasm was my way of expressing my disappointment with life.
Life has definitely played games with me time and again. And it played another game with me a couple of months ago which prompted me to say, “Life happened to me again!”
However, this time I uttered these words without any sarcasm, sorrow or disappointment. I have travelled a long meandering journey in the last few years. I try to not equate life with negative emotions anymore. And I am glad that life happened to me again!