I don’t have a lot of friends. I have a lot of acquaintances. I am a really bad person at keeping friendships. Why? Because friends expect a lot.
If you expect me to meet you at least once a month, I can’t do it. It is a task to get me out of my home without a valid purpose. Hanging out just like that is seriously not my thing. I’d like to have a meaningful conversation with you.
If you expect me to drop you a text on my own just to know if you’re alive or not, I won’t do it. (If I do, either you gotta help me out with something or it’s your birthday.) And if I message you on my own, trust me, the sun didn’t rise from the east. You need to take me to a doctor. But yes, if you initiate a meaningful conversation, I won’t make you feel unwanted.
If I don’t reply back to your messages in time, I am busy. I will definitely get back to you. In an hour, in a day or two. If I don’t get back, either I forgot to reply you back (you have the permission to scold me) or I am ignoring you (and you know which category you fall into).
If you expect me to pick up my phone every time you give me a call, I won’t. My phone must have been on silent mode. If I call you back or drop a message, then you’re lucky and if I don’t, either you called from an unknown number or my phone was ringing but I didn’t care to pick it up.
If you expect me to promise you a lifelong friendship, I can’t. Because I can’t live up to your expectations.
I choose low maintenance friends who respect my space. And there are definitely no forever promises.
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