How are you?


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If someone asks, “How are you?”, what do you reply? I usually say I’m good, I’m fine, doing great or something similar. Sometimes I may exaggerate my answer by saying mast, bindaas, jhakaas (great, carefree, cool) together.

Few days back, someone asked me, “How are you feeling?” and not “How are you?”

The question has stayed in my mind for some time now. Why? Because I find that asking how a person is has just become a formality to initiate a conversation these days. And this question really made me think of how I should answer. I replied back with a normal “I’m feeling good.”

As I write this post, I think back to the last time when I asked someone how they are. I don’t remember!

When I tell people I am good, I know nobody cares how I really am. Or maybe those who do care, I don’t want to bother them. Sometimes I say mast, bindaas, jhakaas to brighten up my mood temporarily. At other times, I tell people “zinda hoon (I’m alive)” either in a sarcastic one.

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Ask yourself. When you asked someone how they are, did you really care how they are?Of all the times that you said, you are doing good, how many times were you really doing good?


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32 thoughts on “How are you?

    1. This reply makes me think of what I’ve heard several old folks here say “I’m doing great. Any day above ground is a good day.” Look at it one way and it is hugely cynical and look at it another and it is a life lesson. I like it.

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  1. It’s totally an American thing ( I think). Many people don’t even say “Good morning”, they just ask “How are you?”, but they walk away before even getting the answer. It’s ridiculous how we use our words so incorrectly.

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  2. My question is “Hey, how you doing?” To be honest, I rarely care. It’s a rote greeting and I generally regret asking if someone says something besides “fine” or “good.” I know, that’s cold.

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    1. I totally get you. I don’t ask people unless I feel that something is wrong with people. And these people should be the ones I genuinely care about.

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  3. This is an interesting concept. We all respond and ask. Its to be polite, but you are right in that sometimes it is just that…being polite and saying hi. If I ask in passing like on my way to somewhere else, then I probably don’t really want a “real” response. I just expect a “good”. But if I am one to one with someone I care about, then yes, I really want to know how they are doing. Being genuine with our responses is important and gives me something to be more aware of. Thanks for a great post! 🙂

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